Wednesday, July 02, 2008

Once A (Wo)Man...Twice a Child...


So, my sister and her mate are currently faced with the issue of dealing with an octogenarian god-mother, who is apparently senile, with traces of what I can only conclude is undiagnosed Alzheimer’s disease.

Love, appreciation, (guilt?) and respect for the Lady has made them reluctant to admit her to a senior care facility, but the alternative is to deal with issues which could possibly have far reaching repercussions on their relationship, social life, and finances.

Having witnessed their situation, it just makes me….sad, as it is very depressing. Lady has now reverted to the mental faculties of a child. She is prone to depression, fits of crying, which I deem to be her frustration manifesting itself; and has to be scolded for actions that are possibly detrimental to her health, and the health and welfare of those around her. She wears adult diapers that must be monitored and changed She wants to engage in her regular day to day activities, and after over seventy years of cooking, how do you tell the home maker within her that she can no longer operate the stove, for fear that she will cause a fire? Or the fact that she no longer knows how to dress herself properly, and could possibly walk out of the house wearing only a hat?

I just find it…awkward. It is strange to be in a position to scold a grown woman and knowing that the she will not learn from the lessons imparted, tapered with the need to maintain that level of respect for the socialite, and loving mother figure that she once was….

Which leaves one to wonder…what of the required care for my parents when they in turn must revert to their childhood? Recently, I can see the gradual effects of age, wearing on my parent’s – new ailments, mellower dispositions, and the need to defer to the children for important decisions that will impact the family as a whole. But, alas, plans will have to be put in place for the folks when their second childhood approaches, and as I get older, and the old bones creak from wear and tear, it is a topic that seems to hit me in the face constantly.

In my regard, I need to start working on my Sonny, to make sure that he will in turn care for his dear ol’ Mama when plastic surgery and medical miracles can no longer disguise the effects of her age. I just hope that he and his wife (the harlot!) will love me enough to change my Depends.

On that depressing note, I shall now exit.

Ta ta…

Ginger

























6 comments:

gishungwa said...

Growing up i looked to my parents as super heroes. My Ma who still has eyes behind her back and can tell when am in trouble even when am not home. Daddy was the most powerful and all knowing man i knew. With time i begin to see them as they really are and the question you posed is a hard one. Sending them to a facility becomes hard lest it comes across that they are burdening you and you don't care but i think at some point its for the best.Am sure its hard on both parties and i wish them well
As for Sonny and Wife, you best be good to them or you wont even need to be senile before they send you away.
Welcome back Afro.

trouble said...

Trust you! I just delete you from my blogroll, 'cause you nah wrote nuttin' in so long... And now ya start right back!

Now I gotta go through the whole rigmarole of addin' you back into the damn blogroll.

On the post however... I done told my folks I lockin' dem in the garden shed when they start give too much shit...

Mighty Afroditee said...

@Gish: I love how you break it down. Dad was the super hero (albeit a flwaed one) and Mom - the Goddess. Sigh. But, gotta plan from now. Can't leave it to the end.

@Trouble: You does tek all kinda long hiatuses and I aint delete you, now I tek some time to find myself, and you remove me??? How dare you!Hmprh!

Abeni said...

I don't even wanna think abt my second childhood..lawd, As a matter of fact am going to be a sharp oldie.lol

Trouble said...

Stop frettin' I put you back... I never been gone as long as you though...

Leon said...

Oh God. I seriously hope I die before that happens to me.